Taking control of your life is getting in touch with your values, setting
meaningful goals and identifying your vision. To be in control of where life
is taking you means being more productive, dealing more effectively with
stress, having the ability to solve problems, handing change and developing
healthy optimism. Start with these 7 steps and you are on your way.
1. Get in touch with your values:
When we feel like we are working hard but not getting anywhere it is
probably because our priorities are not aligned with our values. To begin
identifying your values ask yourself these questions:
Ø What is important to me? Wisdom, freedom, happiness, equality, security,
self-respect, romantic love, money, power, comfortable living, fresh air,
beauty, controlling others, etc. Rate these values.
Ø Who is important to me?
Ø What or who is most important? Be honest with yourself.
Ø What do I need to do to feel good about myself?
Ø How would you feel if someone you respect knew this was one of your
values?
Ø Would you stick by this value?
Ø Is it who you are?
Ø How is this value affecting your life?
Make a list of your 10 top values. Of that 10 choose 4 and of the 4 choose
your top two. From this exercise you will see where you need to focus your
time and effort.
2. Decide what motivates you:
If tomorrow you knew you could do anything and not fail what would you do?
Is there something you are passionate about but are afraid of trying? If you
have no idea what your passion is spend some time reflecting on it. To
start, write down the types of activities you like to do and the types of
activities (hobbies) that make you feel good when you do them. What are your
special skills and talents ? Don't be shy ? Usually if it's something we
like to do we are probably good at it. What inspires you?
3. Set Goals:
In order to get what you really want you must start by setting goals. Goals
fuel your intent and make your desires concrete. Start by writing the goals
for this year in area of personal relationships, work, health, finances and
spirituality. List five goals in each category (add more categories if you
like). Then break them down into monthly and then weekly goals. Focusing on
what you intend in your life will bring it to reality. You create your life
? So start now by setting your goals.
4. Take Action:
Goals are worthless without action. If you have written long-term and
short-term goals and prioritized them, you have a plan of action. Just take
it one step at a time and do something everyday that takes you closer to
where you want to be. Remember however, to live in the present and be
thankful for what you have now, enjoying the journey toward your goals. Read
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5. Manage Your Time:
We all have the same amount of time to use in a day. Why do some people a
lot done while others do very little? You have complete control of how much
time you spend productively and how much you waste. Plan your days and
prioritize your time to get the most out of the time you have. Use
time-wasters like standing in line or waiting in a doctor's office to catch
up on reading or something else that is important to you.
6. Do What Needs to be Done:
Do what has to be done to get to where you want to go. Whether it is a
mundane task or internal work, putting it off gets us nowhere. You are
either going forward or falling behind; there is no such thing as standing
still. Sometimes when we work on ourselves we stop when we get to a place
that we need to change. Change can be difficult when we have to step out of
our comfort zone. The more change is needed the more difficult it is.
7. Self-discipline:
Self-discipline is the final step that takes all that we have learned and
puts it into action. This is a trait that for most of us has to be
developed. To reach our goals we must visualize them as already being
accomplished and have faith that we can reach them. When you believe in and
trust yourself and have enough desire, self-discipline comes
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